I was reading Kris Carr’s blog (of Crazy Sexy Diet and Crazy Sexy Kitchen, which I love) and came across a quote that goes against what a lot of people seem to believe.
She says, “Your purpose has nothing to do with what you do.” She says that your purpose has nothing to do with your passions, work, hobbies, or anything other than learning to love yourself and celebrate who you are.
Focusing on the externalâ€”what you can create, the results you can get at work, who your friends are, what people say about youâ€”doesn’t give you any indication of your purpose or your worth. It’s in forgiving, being vulnerable, healing, loving, and being kind to yourself and others.
I can agree with her to a point, and it’s such a relief! I’m glad that my purpose here isn’t something that’s going to drain the life out of me. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about everything being perfect so that I can make some huge impact on the world that lasts long after I’ve gone.
It makes perfect sense, when you think about it, that your only purpose is to stay true to yourself (that means you do have to find yourself, but you can do that by not thinking so hard or looking externally for meaning) so that you can touch others in little ways, through kindness and acceptance.
I disagree as well. I call having a happy family life a passion, and though it has to start with me and how I feel about myself, there’s still a lot more involved than just me.
I call being a mom a job because of the work and thought involved. My purpose in life is partially wrapped up in my ability to make my daughter feel secure, loved, and able to think on her own. That’s not just me, either, but the work I do in that aspect of my life is a part of my purpose.
I won’t say that I’m worthless if things don’t work out the way I wanted them to, but I think that these things are part of why I was put on the planet. But that just boils down to love and vulnerability.
Saying that flips me back over to the “agree” side, though, because a mom and wife’s self-worth can’t be wrapped up in whether everybody in her home is happy and well-adjusted.
How you influence your family and friends, even strangers, is directly tied to how you feel about yourself and how comfortable you are in your own skin. So I guess, overall, I can agree with the statement that a person’s purpose in life has nothing to do with what they do.
What do you think? What do you feel is your purpose in life?
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