Well, why wouldn’t you schedule sex? It’s completely unromantic, you say. It’s horrible to have that as an item on a to-do list, you argue.
With everything else that has to happen in a day, the things not on your to-do list, especially things that involve adults who can comprehend “tomorrow” or “I’m too tired” are easy to shove aside.Â Waiting for that perfect, spontaneous and romantic movie moment’s not going to happen regularly enough.
If it does, I want to borrow your life for a while because you must not have to choose between shaving your legs and washing your hair during any given shower, and you might even get to do both every day.
Are you waiting for the night you just “happen” to be feeling like a woman againâ€”right-out-of-the-shower clean, legs smooth, hair freshly washed and bouncy, mind unfrazzled, body confidence up, and all before a time of night when you have to say, “Oh, can’t do it tonightâ€”it’s so late and we have to wake up earlyâ€¦”?
With all of that in mind, it’s easy to think you can just step into the role of the seductress, have great sex, and then do it all again the next night or the night after that. Sadly, it’s probably not realistic for most of us.
If you schedule sex, you’ll take time to prepare for it. You’ll know Thursday night’s special and make things happen, whether you have to wash your hair on Wednesday at the gym while your kid’s in their child care and shave your legs on Saturday afternoon while Yo Gabba Gabba‘s blaring in the living room.
Scheduling a time, out loud, with your partner might feel completely awkward at first, but an awkward scheduling’s better than no sex at all, right? Plus, how productive will it feel to mark something off the to-do list first thing in the morning?
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