A committed relationship between adults is a serious commitment. If you are a grown up and have committed yourself to another, you expect certain things out of the relationship aside from someone to call your own and a warm body at night. Sometimes love is not enough and the deficits outweigh the benefit of being part of a couple. Thatâ€™s when itâ€™s time to move on.
Here are a few deal breakers in dating and marriage that I think are universal.
Abuse: If someone physically, verbally or emotionally abuses you, move on. They are a waste of your time and will probably end up damaging you in some way. Better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself.
Dishonesty: If someone is lying to you, itâ€™s almost impossible to regain trust. Donâ€™t bother wasting your time.
Disrespect: If a person does not respect your thoughts, words and actions, they are not worth your time. You will never be fulfilled because you will always feel sub-par. I donâ€™t think anyone can truly love anyone that they donâ€™t respect. You deserve better.
Infidelity: If someone cheats, either they donâ€™t respect you, they don’t respect the relationship or they don’t care if they lose you. On any account, aside from breaking your heart, they run the risk of falling in love with the other person or worse, passing along an STD to you. You are better than that. Cut your loses and say goodbye.
Lack of Communication: He doesnâ€™t listen to your wants and needs and doesnâ€™t share his. This will never work. Itâ€™s like trying to perform surgery in the dark; blind people canâ€™t see whatâ€™s right in front of them. Someoneâ€™s going to get hurt. Itâ€™s probably going to be you.
You want children and he wants dogs: You cannot make someone change their mind about children. They have to do it on their own. Are you willing to sacrifice your children on the off chance that he might change his mind? Walk, no run away.
Mr. Right is out there. You donâ€™t have to settle for Mr. Right Now.
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