How Often Do You Vacation Without Your Kids?
A friend of mine mentioned that she’s going on a week-long vacation with just her husband to celebrate their 10-year anniversary. I was struck by awe and a little bit of jealousy. The last time my husband and I had a “vacation” to ourselves, it was for two nights, not far from home, when our daughter was a year old. Four years ago.
And the only reason we did it was to recuperate after the shock and unusually stressful aftermath surrounding his father’s death. We had to have a break. Especially him. We rented a cabin in the mountains for a couple of nights and attempted to decompress.
To take a kid-free vacation under any other circumstances sounds foreign and heavenly all at the same time. Sure, there’s the mommy (and probably daddy) guilt that goes with leaving your kids behind, feeling obligated to let them go somewhere fun like you are, but the truth is, kids and adults have different ideas of fun, and somebody usually ends up grumpy on a family vacation if the adults never get the time to have couple time.
I think that, though it seems nearly impossible to schedule, a vacation without kids (even a short one!) every couple of years makes the whole family function better. Parents and kids get a break from each other, which is often just as important for the kids as the parents. My daughter sure does welcome a break from my “bossiness,” even if it does mean she’s with her grandma who, “makes her do everything herself.”
Parents get a chance to reconnect as a couple. Even if they’re good as a couple, they finally get a chance to slow down and relax for once. Together. Not one at a time.
Do you ever vacation without your kids?
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