Do You Usually Let Your Kids Wear the Outfits They Pick Out?

Posted on Jan 7, 2013 by 1 Comment
Do You Usually Let Your Kids Wear the Outfits They Pick Out?

This morning, my daughter came downstairs wearing an outfit so bad, it was offensive to my eyes.

My husband helped her come up with it and I know she was being difficult because she wanted to wear a dress (it’s way too cold), so I really didn’t want to say anything.

Between the colored, glittery writing on the shirt that clashed with the bright red pants, the baggy blue t-shirt that looked even worse when tucked in with no belt, and the layering that made everything else look bulkier and more misshapen, I couldn’t keep my mouth shut or avoid looking for alternatives.

I usually do. In most cases, I don’t mind so much when she’s trying to come up with her own outfits (on the weekends, and even within reason on school days), adding five pounds of brightly colored jewelry and a metallic purple crown on top.

I applaud the creativity and the appreciation for beautiful plastic beads. Really.

Instead of saying, “That outfit hurts my eyes,” I suggested taking the blue shirt off and just leaving the white turtleneck on, or tossing both shirts back into the drawer and replacing them with a black long-sleeved crewneck.

It wasn’t happening.

I suggested different pants. She was attached to the red ones.

Finally, after the two of them teamed up on me, we were able to compromise by adding a black belt. You know, to match the ballet slipper-style shoes she’d put on. Plus it just bugs me when shirts are tucked in and unused belt loops are visible.

They left the house that way. She was happy and told me she thought her outfit was awesome. I guess that’s all that matters.

Do you draw the line on weekends or days off from school when your kids are experimenting with their style, or do you let them wear what they want most of the time?

Photo credit: kellyv

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Crystal Schwanke

Crystal has been a freelance writer for 10 years and wouldn't change a minute of it. She writes about fashion, beauty, parenting, and health most often, but loves to explore new topics. She lives in the Atlanta area with her husband, daughter, and an 80-lb boxer mix who's convinced he's a chihuahua.

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  • Emily (CityBaby Living)

    As long as it works for the weather, my daughter has been picking her outfits since she was about three (she’s now 5.5). It gives her a sense of control over her body and it’s just not a battle I care enough to have. If we’re going somewhere like a wedding, I usually pick a couple of acceptable options and let her choose. I fill her drawers with things I like so she never picks anything I hate and sometimes the things she puts together are pure genius! Yesterday she wore all stars – dress, leggings, socks and undies. She couldn’t wait to tell her kindergarten teacher.