Youâ€™ve waited for it. Youâ€™ve counted down. Youâ€™ve bought a new outfit. Youâ€™ve gotten a manicure.
Youâ€™ve shaved your legs for the first time in approximately 47 days.
Date night with the husband is here!
Have you ever had this happen? Youâ€™ve planned a great night away from the kids with your husband. You hug the kids goodbye, give the babysitter a few last-minute instructions and scurry out the door. You look at your husband and say, â€œOk, so what do you want to do?â€
And your husband says, â€œI donâ€™t know, what do you want to do?â€
Ninety minutes later, youâ€™ve driven around trying to figure out the perfect place to eat, and theyâ€™re all busy. You went to the movies but were too late to catch the hot flick of the weekend. You went to a bar and were shocked at how young everyone else was.
You end up at Applebeeâ€™s splitting an appetizer and drinking two margaritas, and then head home, thinking that you should have planned the night a little bit better.
We have done this more times than I can count, unfortunately. So whatâ€™s a married couple to do with a few hours to themselves and no kids? Letâ€™s talk about some creative ideas for using that valuable quality time in a fun way that will let you connect with your partner.
1.Â Â Â Take a cooking class. Yes, I know, thereâ€™s a chance you already cook a lot at home. But away from the pressures of a 6:00 dinner bell and a fun environment with your spouse, taking a cooking class together can make for a fun evening where you can bond over some food. My favorites? A dessert class for a little romance, or a bread or pasta-making class where you can dig in and get messy!
2.Â Â Â Get outdoors for a day date. Heading back into nature for a daytime date can be a terrific opportunity for you and your partner to get some fresh air and have a quiet place to talk and hold hands. Try a moderately easy hike or a walk around the local town lake. Even a bike ride can be incredibly refreshing. Stop off for a quick bite and a beer for lunch afterwards.
3.Â Â Â Split the date in two. Divide your date into two parts â€“ you pick what to do for the first half, and your partner, the second half. No complaining about your spouseâ€™s choice! This allows each of you to choose something youâ€™ve really wanted to do.
4.Â Â Â Go sporty casual. Donâ€™t complicate what should be a relaxing time by adding fancy clothes and a shi-shi restaurant to the mix. Slap on a ball cap and hit up a local sporting event â€“ minor league baseball, arena football, even a hockey game. Share some ballpark food.
5.Â Â Â People watch. Slow down a little bit! Find an outdoor cafÃ©. Grab some coffee or a bottle of wine and people-watch. It can be a relaxing break from the constant prattle of children, dogs, housework and schoolwork.
Things I donâ€™t recommend for a date? Planning your will. Organizing closets. Running errands. Talking about finances.Â Crossing an item off of your to-do list isnâ€™t prioritizing your marriage, itâ€™s prioritizing your to-do list! Itâ€™s tempting to try and get stuff accomplished with your free time, but try to put your Type-A personality aside and just enjoy!