Category: Love & Relationships

Moment of Dread When You Realize the Your Child Is Quiet

Posted on Mar 27, 2015 by 1 Comment

Life is full of chaos for moms of toddlers. They are always on the move, except when they are napping. Or at least you think they are napping.

One time, when my daughter napped a little longer than usual, I peeked in on her to find that she had climbed up onto the changing table, painted the wall in Vaseline, and stuck tissues here and there in what I guessed to be an effort to clean it up, or maybe a work of art. Not sure. All I can tell you is that it was a big mess trying to clean Vaseline off the wall, my child, and everything else she had touched.

It’s funny how we can long for a little bit of quiet. We even enjoy it. Then suddenly we realize it’s too quiet! And why? They are doing something fascinating of course. Like when my daughter painted my bedspread and her outfit with my mascara. (Hairspray did get most of it out.)

During those times of “golden” silence, I’d often find my son had dumped the shampoo down the tub drain, or that he had unrolled an entire roll of toilet paper, his favorite activity.

The fact is, that most of the time when our tots are too quiet, it means they aren’t just being quiet. They are up to no good.

Looking back at those times, now, they are cute. Like when my son was just learning to walk, but knew how to climb. He pushed the kitchen chair to the counter, climbed up and taste-tested the Thanksgiving pumpkin pie with his little fingers.

The thing that’s amazing is that it takes almost no time for them to create a mess or at least get into something they shouldn’t be.

At the time it was frustrating, but today, some of my favorite pics are from those times, when I grabbed the camera and snapped a picture.

How about your kids? What have you found them doing in those quiet moments? Remember to cherish even these times, because in the future you’ll be laughing together over them.

Photo credits: Personal photo used with permission

Bride Marries Wedding Guest Instead of Groom

Posted on Mar 23, 2015 by No Comments

A lot goes into a wedding. Not just planning and finances but there’s also a lot of emotional commitment involved. When the big day comes, and all goes well, it’s the thing memories are made of.

For one 23-year-old Indian bride, by the name of Indira, things were going according to plan until her husband-to-be suffered an epileptic seizure during the ceremony.

A medical event is enough to ruin any wedding, but there’s a twist to this story. The bride walked out married…but to one of the guests.

Just before the vows were exchanged, the groom, Jugal Kishore, collapsed to the floor. He was rushed to the hospital. Normally, wouldn’t you expect the bride to go to the hospital?

Not this time. Instead of being worried or upset for his welfare, she was angry. Angry because she didn’t know her fiancé was an epileptic. Just one of those things he never mentioned I guess.

In that fit of anger, the bride asked one of the guests, by the name of Harpal Singh to marry her. He happened to be a member of her brother-in-law’s family. That’s enough of a surprise, but the real surprise is that he said yes!

He stepped into the groom’s shoes wearing jeans and a leather jacket. They exchanged vows and then Kishore, the original groom, returned after being released from the hospital.

You can imagine his surprise when he arrived to find his bride married to someone else. The Times of India reports that he begged her to change her mind, because he couldn’t face his family after such a humiliating turn of events. She said, “No.”

The celebration turned violent as the two families started throwing plates and cutlery. It led to a complaint being filed by Mr. Kishore, but he later retracted it.

Things settled, and life returned to normal. But it was a new normal. Mr. Kishore was still single, and the woman he thought was to be his bride now lives as the wife of another man.

All this took place in Rampur in the northern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. Sounds like a work of fiction, doesn’t it?

Photo credits: wikipedia

Brad and Angelina Adopting Again

Posted on Mar 19, 2015 by No Comments

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have six children, and rumors have resurfaced that they are ready to grow that number to seven. This would be the first child the couple would add to their family since they became husband and wife last August.

According to Women’s Day, the couple has reportedly started the process to adopt a two-year-old boy from Syria named “Moussa.”

After months of “top-secret negations,” Brad and his wife Angelina are allegedly ready to welcome a sweet two-year-old boy from Syria into their family. – Women’s Day

Pitt (51) and Jolie (39), are known for their large hearts, and are no strangers to the idea of adoption. Jolie had already adopted son, Maddox in 2002, before she and Pitt became a couple.

In 2005, the two of them traveled to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, where Jolie adopted her second child Zahara Marley. In 2006, they legally changed the children’s last name from Jolie to Jolie Pitt.

In 2006, Angelina gave birth to their first biological child, Shiloh Nouvel in Swakopmund, Namibia and People magazine paid more than $4 million for the first pictures. The couple donated the money to charities that help African children.

In 2007, Angelina adopted a three year old, Pax Thien, from an orphanage in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, and Pitt adopted him in the United States in 2008.

In that same year, Jolie announced she was expecting twins, and in July gave birth to son Knox Leon and daughter Vivienne Marcheline in Nice, France. This time first rights for pictures of the babies were sold to both People and Hello! For $14 million and the money was donated to the Jolie-Pitt Foundation.

No word of exactly when Moussa will join the rest of the family. Angelina met the child while visiting as a United Nations ambassador for refugees and displaced people earlier this year.

At the time Moussa lived in the Altinozu refugee camp in Turkey. The little guy toddled up to her and gave her a hug when he saw she was crying. She kissed the top of his head the two were inseparable for the rest of her visit. Sounds like a match made for life!

Photo credits: HotPink17

Daddy Daughter Bonding Activities

Posted on Mar 16, 2015 by No Comments

My dad and I had a special relationship. He was the go-to person when I needed to talk. We laughed together, played together, and he was also the disciplinarian.

So how did we get so close when he worked second shift? First off, we left notes for each other. I’d leave mind on his pillow.

Dad took advantage of the weekends. We often went off and spent the day fishing, ice skating, or sometimes we’d would go for a scenic drive. At the time, that was my least favorite because I wasn’t into admiring the farmer’s fields and tree-lined streets, but it did give us time in the car to talk.

I think that’s the key. Bonding time needs to allow for time to communicate. If you’re not good at it, it just means you need more practice.

So if you can’t go skating or fishing, what are some things dads do today with their daughters? My dad is the one who taught me to ride a bike, but sometimes it is hard to find a common interest.

A good fall-back plan is to go out to eat. Going out for breakfast is my favorite, but any meal will do. It’s the perfect opportunity for the two of you sit at the same table and talk about what on your minds.

My father loved going to the Museum of Science and Industry and the Field Museum in Chicago. It’s where he grew up. He was better than a guide; he made museum visits just about as fun as a Night at the Museum movie.

My friend’s daughter loves birds, and she and her father built a birdhouse together. He even set up a camera inside and they watched bluebirds build a nest and raise a family. The possibilities are endless.

Thinking back on it today, I cherish the memories of time spent with my dad. As the oldest of seven, it wasn’t always just the two of us, but I couldn’t tell you who else was there. In my mind it was me and dad.

Today I think dads drive themselves crazy trying to carve out alone time with each child individually every time so they can bond, when really spending time together having fun will do the trick.

My dad used to play hide and seek with us and even tag. All you really have to do is share your life. It’s more than a daddy daughter dance. It’s a all-the-time kind of thing.

Photo credits: Mvideography

Will and Jada Smith Talk Honestly About Their Marriage

Posted on Mar 12, 2015 by No Comments

Will Smith is one of my favorite actors. He brings a natural reality to his roles even when they are as out there as Men in Black. And he brings that same element in real life. He hasn’t forgotten his roots, and he hasn’t forgotten his wife either.

He and Jada Pinkett Smith have been married for 18 years now. They are the parents of two kids, daughter Willow, 14, and son, Jaden, 16; and as a couple they have a reputation as a solid couple.

But both Will and his wife admit their relationship isn’t always a bed of roses. However, they also admit it’s something you work and grow through.

In a recent interview with The Sun newspaper, Will Smith said, “Whatever you have is gonna die and you are gonna have to rebirth something new. You have to be willing to ride the waves. There’s gonna be some flat days and some stormy days, and that has to be okay.”

So how did they get to this place in their relationship when so many other celebs, not to mention everyday folk, succumb to the pressures that tear so many couples apart?

Jada says that once she broke free from her idea of what a husband looks like and what a wife is supposed to be that she saw her husband in a new light. For them, it was like an evolution in their relationship that broke free of preconceived stereotypes.

Throughout their marriage, they’ve been prey to the tabloids claiming their marriage was on the rocks, and Jada addresses the public criticism head on.

She has said, “Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.”

Photo credits: GingerSpice414

Vow NASCAR Driver Brian Scott Made to His Stepdaughter

Posted on Mar 11, 2015 by 2 Comments

When NASCAR driver Brian Scott proposed to his girlfriend he realized he was asking more than one person to love him forever. He was asking his girlfriend, Whitney, and her young daughter, Brielle, to join with him as family.

They had a stunning mountain ceremony, and after he read his emotional vows to his bride, Scott felt he needed to make promises to his new four-year-old stepdaughter, too. He crouched beside little Brielle and said, “Brielle, can I tell you something?”

Wedding Picture
Brian wiped away emotional tears as he said, “I promise to always hold your hand and skip with you down the street and bring comfort to your life. I vow to make you say your prayers before you eat. I promise to read you stories at night, to always tuck you in real tight. I vow to show you how a man should treat a woman in my relationship with your mother. And above all else, I vow to protect you, care for you, and love you forever.”

Needless to say by the time he was done, he had all the family and friends gathered there wiping their eyes, too.

While his vows to little Brielle have been called sweet and precious, there’s one phrase in there that touched me more than the rest. “I vow to show you how a man should treat a woman in my relationship with you mother.”

It makes me think of how many times I’ve seen girls make poor choices based on the example they saw in their own home growing up.

His vows reflect a love that goes beyond what he wants. It shows a real love that can make a difference from one generation to the next.

If you want to watch the brief ceremony yourself, you can see it online, but be sure to grab a tissue!

Photo credits: PennWeddings

Calista Flockhart Urges Husband Harrison Ford to Give Up Flying

Posted on Mar 10, 2015 by 1 Comment

I was sitting in a little diner eating dinner with my husband and son last week when news of Harrison Ford’s plane crash flashed across the screen. It was a static picture of the crashed plane, with a yellow ribbon of information scrolling along the bottom of the screen.

The sound was off, and most of the people in the diner paid no attention. Along with concern for the 72-year-old Indiana Jones actor, I thought about his wife Calista Flockhart (50). Flockhart is Ford’s third wife. They were married in 2010 after eight years together, and have a 12-year-old son, Liam.

The day of the crash was a beautiful sunny day in L.A., and she went out for a walk. That’s where she was when her husband experienced, the what some consider a near-fatal crash in his WWII era plane on the Penmar Golf Course last week soon after his take off from the Santa Monica airport.

A source told People magazine that Flockhart arrived at the hospital short after her husband arrived by ambulance, and she admits she feels very blessed that he survived the crash.

“Calista arrived at the ER shortly after Harrison. She looked concerned and stayed with Harrison until late last night. This morning, she drove [their son] Liam to school and then straight to the hospital. She is still at the hospital now.”

Ford has received some humorous jabs from former co-stars since the accident, like Carrie Fisher saying, “I know you have incredible bounce back, please take a bounce break for a while. Can I drive next time?”

But Flockhart isn’t seeing anything funny about it. She has reportedly banned her husband from flying solo after this recent crash.

One source has even said that she and Ford’s children have worried for him with this dangerous hobby, and that Flockhart is now strongly urging her husband to call it quits as a pilot.

Only time will tell whether or not he will heed his wife’s plea. I for one hope he will consider her advice.

Photo credits: wikipedia

Couple Married 67 Years Die Together Just Hours Apart

Posted on Mar 9, 2015 by No Comments

The movie “The Notebook” was a love story about an elderly couple living in a home. The woman suffered from dementia. Each day the man read to her from a diary…the notebook. It contained a story about a young couple who fell in love.

Hearing the story brought the woman back to reality for brief moments. By the end of the movie you learn the couple in the notebook is the elderly couple when they were younger. It was the woman’s diary, but most of the time she doesn’t know her husband.

He loves her through it all, and the two of them end up dying together of natural causes and holding hands. Sounds like something that would only happen in the movies, but on February 11, Floyd and Violet Hartwig passed away together, holding hands.

The couple had been married for 67 years, and lived in a home very much like the one in the movie. Their daughter, Donna Scharton says, “They weren’t fancy. They were just decent people that were always committed to each other, no matter the situation.”

Her mother suffered from dementia for the last several years, and her daughter could see she was declining over the holidays. Then she received a call from her father’s doctor saying “your dad has kidney failure and he has two weeks to live.”

They decided to put them in hospice together.

If their life was a movie, we would see the two of them meet in grammar school. Floyd would put in his six years with the Navy and when he returned the two of them would reconnect, fall in love, and get married.

We’d watch them run a ranch, Violet would get up every morning and make Floyd breakfast at 4:30. They had three kids, Carol, Kenneth, and Donna, and Violet sewed their clothes from scratch. Family was everything to them.

They’d always done things together, and when they went in to hospice together, the family all knew the end was near. They pushed their beds close together. Floyd would tell the doctor, “I’m okay I just want her fixed.”

According to his daughter, Donna, “That was his concern; not how bad his pain was, but that he wanted my mom fixed.”

It’s a true-life love story of a couple devoted to each other to the end.

Photo credits: thefresnobee

Scarlett Johansson Says Travolta Kiss Sweet and Totally Welcome

Posted on Mar 6, 2015 by No Comments

The other day I wrote about how stunning Scarlett Johansson looked for the Oscars. She wore a emerald green dress, that showed off her post-baby hour glass figure with class and style in a sexy way. Her breathtaking look was a showstopper on the red carpet.

Then out of nowhere, John Travolta came up placed his hands on her waist and kissed her cheek. The pictures made it look like one of those awkward moments and the press was off and running with the story. I was among them.

Since I mentioned it as an award moment, I felt the need to let everyone know that Scarlett Johansson has said it wasn’t what it looked like.

On Thursday, she called the actor “a class act” and she clarified that the pictures of the kiss on the red carpet was “an unfortunate sill-frame” that doesn’t reflect the “totally sweet and totally welcome” encounter.

And in an exclusive statement to The Associated Press, Johansson made it clear that “there is nothing strange, creepy or inappropriate about John Travolta.”

Before you think she is just being kind, remember that the picture is a still frame image taken from live action. I get some really good bird pictures this way, but with people, it takes some time for our facial expression to catch up to the unexpected as it catches us unaware.

For example, one time my husband thought it would be funny to cup his hands over my breasts as a birthday picture was snapped. The people in the picture, including me, are all standing there with big forced smiles with birthday cake as the centerpiece.

My facial expression does not show my reaction seconds later. I can leave that to your imagination.

Johansson goes on to call say, “That still photo does not reflect what preceded and followed if you see the moment live. Yet another way we are misguided, misinformed and sensationalize by the 24-hour news cycle. I haven’t seen John in some years and it is always a pleasure to be greeted by him.”

The two stars co-starred in the 2004 drama “A Love Song for Bobby Long.”

Photo credits: Wewwooff