It’s been three years since I became a stay-at-home mom and to be honest, I’m still getting used to it. The no schedule thing and uncertainty that comes with each day, not always showering on a daily basis because Play-Doh and Legos always come first, but never before caffeine! It’s definitely gotten easier, but I’m still not all together comfortable with it.
A schedule is key and I suppose we have that most days: preschool on Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays, swim lessons on Tuesdays and afternoons filled with play dates, visits to the park, zoo, library and pet stores.
No matter what, we get out of the house, for my sanity, just as much as my son’s. I like to say, I’m a stay-at-home mom that does anything but stay at home.
Some days, however, it feels like the walls are coming in on us and that’s when I have to take a minute for myself and regroup. Sometimes it’s something as simple as taking a walk around our neighborhood or loading him up in the car to for a frozen yogurt run. Fresh air and a change of scenery always seem to do wonders.
Tips I learned from these two books also helped immensely and if you are looking for some coping mechanisms, then check them out for yourself!
This is a very helpful handbook on everything you should know as your home’s “CEO”, written in a tone that neither talks down to you nor over-simplifies things. I gained great insight into things I hadn’t ever considered before, such as social security, insurance, managing money, etc.
In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms by Laura Schlessinger ($25.99).
Love her or hate her, the good doctor sure knows how to make a SAHM feel on top of the world! If you are a fan of Dr. Laura’s radio program, you’ll love how she incorporated her radio show into the book by including actual transcripts from callers. An easy read and incredibly uplifting and reassuring, I have recommended this book to all my SAHM friends.
My only negative comment is thatÃ‚Â In Praise of Stay-At-Home Moms does come off a bit judgmental toward mothers who chose to work outside the home and I would not recommend it to a mother who is having a tough time with that decision.
So while I don’t have meetings to attend or a closet full of suits to wear anymore, I plan, I schedule, I organize, I manage, I orchestrate, I clean, I cook (sort of), I run errands, I live for nap time, me time, friend time and date nights.
Staying at home is not easy. Slowly but surely, I’m learning to embrace this role, but I’d be lying if I said that didn’t spend a lot of time day dreaming about returning to work full time.
On one hand, I can’t imagine having anyone else spend as much time with my son as I get to or allowing them to be such an active participant in his growth and development. I do realize how lucky I am that I am his primary care giver, but on the other hand, there are days that I would give my right arm to have a 7:30 meeting and drop him off somewhere along the way.
It’s an age-old argument, but as I see it, being a mom at home or not, is hard work. No matter where you do it from.
For some, returning to work is a financial necessity and not a choice. I get that. And when I think about being a SAHM in those terms, I know I’m one of the fortunate ones.
Are you at stay-at-home mom? If so, is it by choice? Do you miss working? If you stay at home, what are your favorite resources?